As a New Englander I inherited the kind of puritanical guilt that causes you to cease doing things the minute you enjoy them. As a result, I don't relax well & I'm happy fine with that. Anyway, here are some things I've done to give my relaxation more meaning.
Subways make wasted time palpable. This was my solution.
WOOD & ETC.
I own a Subaru. Now all I need is to build a canoe. Also, these are things I've made out of wood.
I doodle constantly. That's about where the story ends.
When I am not doing the above, I also lead 3 relatively successful side lives.